Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Tolerance, Acceptance, Hugs and Love!

I'm at a lost for words......I'm sure there are people cheering saying this chick has nothing to say, that's a rarity! YaY! Sorry to burst your moment of joy folks~~I'm lost of words because I don't understand WHY......let me explain~~~~

I have a few thoughts that I would like to share about a subject that I hold dear to who I'm as a person. That subject is acceptance of people and their differences.......

These differences range from simple things like homeschooling, haircuts and color to tattoo's, to race, disabilities, gays, lesbians, age and YES religion. Things that give a person their individuality, defines them as a person...... or better stated anything different from what some would say, "Normal!"

These differences spark debates, hate, fear, fights, war and whatever one deems necessary to spill their ignorance and hate. It has been going on since the beginning of time nothing new but...... WHY??

The WHY questions, come into play with these prejudices and intolerances. Here are just a few of my why questions~~

Why do you think your better then anyone else?
Why is your nationality/race better then mine?
Why must we point out the color of someone's skin?
Why can't people accept people for who they are?
Why is it necessary to belittle and taunt people for their differences?
Why can't we realize that these differences is what gives the world color and depth?
Why do you teach your children to hate?
Sorry yes, it is does this make you feel better?
Why do you teach your kids to dislike differences in people?
Why can't we get along?

It turns my inners in circles, gets my intestinal tract in a bind and my mind saying, "Really are you that ignorant?" Let me educate you. Actually, I'm thinking how stupid are you? You're ingrained ignorance is stunning the growth of your mind/life and the world. Wake up!!

I'm not saying to believe in all these differences but tolerate them, accept them, understand them. When we learn to tolerate and understand these differences, we will be happier and healthier as a person, nation, world and so on but for some reason we can't. Instead another WHY question comes into play

Why don't we want to be happy as a world? We can be....It's easy accept, tolerate, educate, hug and love! A simple concept to me but one that is not accepted by all. We will continue to have hate, pain and sadness until we change as a world and learn how to accept, tolerate, educate, hug and love!

One step closer to being deliriously happy! Spread hugs, love, acceptance, tolerance and educate!

Monday, August 12, 2013

Cecilia Marie

                                                  Cecilia Marie

An Angel you are~so pure and beautiful~
You came so peacefully into our lives asleep at 33weeks and 5 days on July 30th (2013) at 1057pm~

GOD had plans for you as you were being made in your mommy's womb~
Plans that we weren't aware of~

For 236 days you snuggled in your mommy's tummy and grew into a beautiful perfect Angel~
We watched you develop and grow through the beautiful ultrasound pictures~
These pictures were placed in frames and on our fridges with love~ waiting for your arrival~

Oh, the smiles, love and joy you gave us durning those 236 days were amazing~~ Thank you Cecilia Marie~

We loved you in spirit from the day we found out your mommy was pregnant with you~
Each day our love for you grew stronger and stronger~
I never knew how much one could love someone in spirit until you came into our lives~

We were all so excited that you were coming~ we couldn't wait to see you beautiful face~
Who would you look like~
Your GOD mommy Annuh prayed and prayed for you to look like her and your mommy~
Just like your mommy prayed for Anuuh to look like her~
She did an awesome job because triplets you are~
Yes, you look like your daddy too~

You sparked debates on who was going to be your favorite Dewy, Jem or Annuh~
Kippie and Dewy talked about teaching you how to play video games.....hmmmm~
Aryie would have saved you~
Dewy and Kippie aren't much into letting others play as I'm sure you are aware~~
Kippie wanted to send you to China~It was so funny to hear him but he loved you tons~

We sang and will continue to sing Cecilia for you~
Kippie loves to sing Cecilia for you~

We think about all the things we would have taught you and done with you~
We wonder if you would be big like Kippie or small like Annuh~
Would your smile be big like your mommy's or would you grin like your daddy~
What would your laugh sound like~
Your touch feel like~
All these questions will remain a mystery to us~

GOD decided you would make a perfect beautiful Angel~
Now you're playing with the Angels in Heaven~

You taught us how to love in spirit and in spirit we will continue to love you~
When we feel the breeze blow across our faces~~it will be you blowing us kisses~
The rain and thunder will be you singing and dancing with the Angels to "Cecilia" or "Hooked on a Feeling"~
The sun shining on our faces~ will be you smiling down on us~
The silent touch that one feels at night before we go to sleep~
Will be you blessing us~ giving us goodnight kisses~

I know right now you're looking down on us~~Saying~
Please dry your tears~
Turn those tears of sorrow into tears of joy~
Be happy for me~
You celebrated me in spirit~ continue to celebrate me~
I will live through your hearts and voices~

I will watch over you while you sleep~
I will be there for every celebration~for every tear that is shed~
I'm patiently waiting to meet each of you ~when you come to meet Jesus~
Until then celebrate me~
Give my 236 days of love and joy you had for me~~meaning~~

Always Remember~~
How softly I tiptoed into your world~
Almost silently~
Only a moment I stayed~
But what an imprint~
My foot prints left~
On your hearts~
I will forever be your private little beautiful Angel~
I will always love you~
I will continue to live forever through your hearts and voices~

~~~~Cecilia Marie~~~

Thursday, July 4, 2013

Skillful Communication Compared to Leaky Water Faucet

You know when you are pushed to the limit~ when that last monkey jumps on your back. 
Your toooo tired to filter....
To be an adult, instead you let your mouth pour like a broken faucet! 
A leaky water faucet that isn't dripping but pouring out....
The valve is broken and the handle is just spinning in circles......
It's a spastic release of water which quickly turns into a controlled flow after control is taken and the conversational field becomes more balanced~~

Usually during the flow of water pouring out of my mouth, I cry, become emotional, my words are a discombobulated wind storm, and no one pays attention and disregards what I say....
But this time was different!
After, I took control of the conversation and the playing field was equalized. I felt confident; thoughts and respect were coming out of my mouth and my opinion was going to be heard.
I was heard, and I'm sure the person who tried to control the conversation by control and manipulation was sad because I didn't let her!
For once in my life I mastered the art conversation, was heard and no regrets where had........
I learned a valuable lesson in conversation....No matter how passionate I'm about a subject, I must at all times control my emotions!
Now to do this where my kids are concerned.......

Face it~~conversation is an art, a technique that is mastered by some....
Some have a Phd in it...
Others are true experts.....They could get you to buy two day old road kill
While others such as myself couldn't even talk someone into a free beautiful shiny gold necklace.....delivered to them by a sexy hunk such as Shemar Moore (the sexy hunk from Criminal Minds)

I will continue to be a student of conversation.....Hoping that one day I will graduate into the world of skillful communication!

One More Step to becoming Deliriously Happy! 

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

The Dreaded Four Letter Word

As I sit here thinking about all my life goals that I will be working on this year, I come to the one that has eluded me for years. It's a want; a dream that it eludes lots of people. It doesn't discriminate; it crosses all race and age barriers.  It scares lots of people the dreaded four letter word or  is it 2 words; a two letter and a four letter word. It is words that when shown on TV or movies or shown in public and I get the privilege of seeing it....I slightly vomit in the back of my throat and feel sorta sick.

Hmmmm Do you know what word/words that I'm talking about are???  It's the dreaded love or in love or is it in-love.

 I can honestly say, I have only been in-love once. And I freely walked away from it last New Years Day 2012 and have not regretted it once. So no, I'm not bitter as some think I'm. The guy that I walked away from regrets it but I haven't. Even though it was painful and hard it is what I needed to do.

I ask myself why......others get to be in-love and I can't find it. Why I can't find a real relationship. I know I'm not the only one who ask this question of themselves...

 I have voiced that I want one. Even posted it, wrote it as a goal and even prayed for it. Thinking God might intervene.....surely he would like to see me in-love.

My daughter signed me up for a dating site. I have changed my thoughts on love and yet still nothing...

I get asked all the time Why.....I'm not remarried, Why there isn't a special person in my life. I ask that question to myself  too.... At the risk of sounding vain, I'm not ugly. I have never had a hard time getting a guy. It's finding a guy who wants to have a real relationship with what is wrong with me.....

It has been pointed out more then once to me that it's my fault.....that I'm to busy, to involved in my family and career,  to strong of a person. AND my favorite... that I don't pay enough attention to them or notice them, that I give off the wrong vibe...Hmmmm really! No matter what the complaint or problem is, it's my fault, even my X husband would say it's my fault. It makes one begin to question is it really my fault? So if it's my fault then what about all the other girls that feel the same way I do? Is it their fault too? Guys aren't to blame?

I have given thought to this AND in my big girl panties....I will say yes, it's all my fault. It's every girls fault...No, I'm not bitter just tired of constantly being told that everything that goes wrong is my I have re-evaulated things and guess what......

It's not my fault or other girls faults.......
Guys want to blame everything on the girl, guys create drama; course guys did invent drama. As much as they say they don't like it, they are stuck to it like glue......girls clean up the mess from the drama. It's easier for guys to blame the girl and as girls we just suck it up and take it. Now in all fairness girls do create some of the problems. In my own observation I would say this is......and yes, I tested this out...

Actions speak louder then words AND no action no words speak volumes.... 

Desires dictate our priorities, priorities shape our choices, and choices determine our actions. 
I think the biggest problem with relationships is communication and the lack of it...the inability to take action and voice your words and be understood. That some carry baggage and assumptions with them and think everyone else does too....some think they can carry on a relationship via txt messages...they forgo seeing the person or chatting with them on the phone. Yes, txt message is great if your sex texting or quick communication...but pass that should not replace spoken communication. But sadly in today society it is....I'm guilty of this too...
Relationships are work, most people are not willing to put the time and effort into them. 
As for me, I'm willing to put the work into a relationship but..........winning the Lotto is more likely then having one~~

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