Choose Happiness Over Misery

Sometimes in life we have to give up something we want or that is important to us in order to be able to move forward in life. It's true....

I know some of you are saying what is this crazy girl talking about.... 

Others know what I'm saying, but say why give up something that is comfortable and safe even though those same people are miserable.....Been there done that. Lets say not fun and life is wayyyyyyy to short! 

Others will say make that tough decision you never know whats going to happen.....You deserve to be happy. I agree with making that tough decision, I made it! It hurt!
 Down right stung the thumper in the chest. But the thumper is strong and will be happier as life is being lived, goals reached and true love is found. 

Recently, I had to make a tough decision to walk away from a relationship that I was comfortable with and frankly from someone I'm in love with and the only guy I ever really loved. I moved our relationship to the "we are just friends category." It has been a long time coming.  I want more out of life so I had to give up the relationship that I was comfortable with but wanted more out of it. I have always known that we were never going to go anywhere but I didn't want to face it.  I didn't want to give up friendship that has helped me grow, enriched my life for years and the only guy that I have actually loved.
Recently, I stated what I wanted from our relationship and I got no response. So I'm done. I'm ready and need to move on and I have....I can and I will.  I want more and deserve more. I have left the safety net behind, I'm sad but I know that it had to be done. I don't want to be miserable anymore. I want a real relationship so I made a tough decision, now I can move on. It's scary not knowing if I will ever be in love again. 

We clinch on to things that make us miserable because we don't want to give up material things, money, and comfort to change our situation. Does that make sense? I have so many friends that are miserable.  They say I would love to but I don't want to give up having everything. I gave up two houses, toys and countless shopping trips to be happy. I may not have everything ever again but I'm happy, my kids are happy and my life has changed for the better. It wasn't worth being miserable to have everything or to be in love with someone who loves you but doesn't want the same thing out of the relationship.

One Step To Being Deliriously Happy!  

The ABC's of Dementia....

One of the things we worry about as we age is dementia. There are many different types and causes of dementia. Knowing the types and causes will help with the prevention of or slowing of symptoms of dementia. I want to educate and increase everyone's knowledge of dementia. Over the next few months I plan on breaking it down further for you in hopes that this will help you with your loved one.


Dementia  can be classified in a variety of ways and are often grouped by what they have in common, whether they worsen over time (progressive dementia) or are caused by a reaction to medications or an infection, which can reversible with treatment.


Here are a some of the risk factors that you need to be aware of, lets start off with the ones that CANNOT be changed. They are age, family history and Down Syndrome. Rick factors that CAN be changed are Alcohol consumption, Atherosclerosis, blood pressure, cholesterol, Diabetes. depression, estrogen levels being out of range, smoking, Homocysteine blood levels to name a few things. It goes without saying you must look at things that you can change to prevent problems you don't want. Not to say that you won't get it any ways but why help it. 


Some of the signs and symptoms that your love one might be having trouble. 


1) Memory loss that disrupts your daily living.


2) Having problems with solving problems or planning 


3) Difficulty with completing task that is normally done daily and that you are familiar with. 


4) Confusion with time and place. 


5) Problems with writing or speaking words. 


6) Misplacing of items and or not recalling what you did with the items. 


7) Poor or decreased judgement


8) With drawl from social activities or work


9) Changes in personality or mood, increase anger etc. 


10) Visual problems  


If you think your loved one is having problems please seek the advice of a MD or neurologist. Doctors  have been know to miss the early signs of dementia so don't be to hard on yourself if you don't notice them. Get help as soon as you can to help prevent the progression of dementia in your loved one. When you do take your loved one to the doctors be prepared to give an extensive medical history and have knowledge of the medication that they are currently taking.  The doctor may order cognitive test, neurological evaluations, scans both CAT or MRI, laboratory tests, Psychiatric evaluation to come up with the diagnosis for your loved one.  Don't give up until you are satisfied with the diagnosis and treatment of your loved one. Remember one day you might be in their shoes! 

Come on and Join Me For A Morning Workout!

I love waking up early in the morning with the sun rising and the house quite as a mouse running around  leaving it's poop poop behind! Quietly sitting in my chair sipping coffee with blinds open watching the beautiful sunrise. All nice right? Up until I see neighbor after neighbor go by walking, jogging or riding their bike. An instant motivation it is, as they are going by and you can hear their quiet remarks, "Get off your butt and move woman!" " I feel guilty if I don't get don't get out and exercise." Props to the neighbors who encourage me to get up and move.

Exercising in the morning has many benefits according to some experts. It clears my mind and allows me to think about things going on in life and biz. I love it when the kids or my biz partner comes with me.  I simply enjoy it because it gives me the motivation and determination to drive my day into a productive fun day. 

Some of the benefits of exercising in  the morning are: 

1) Speeds up your metabolism, gives you that "jump start" to burning calories all day long. I don't know about you but I need all the help I can get burning calories! 

2) Exercising has been shown to increase your mental acuity, clears the mind for up to 10 hours. Why do   that at night when you want to go to sleep and you don't care if your mind is all fuzzy! Don't loose optimal brainpower while you are sleeping, exercise in the morning so you can harness your productive day! 

3) When you excise the same time everyday it has positive affects in regulating your endocrine and  circadian rhythms. This helps your body get ready for the day several hours before you start! Hormones prepare your body for exercise, your metabolism increases while you are sleeping. Which will cause you to be more energized and ready to start the day! 

4) Morning workouts help you stay committed to your workout regime. No chance of having excuse that your day was long or kids have homework, or a black cat crossed your path. I like exercising first thing in the morning and I use to be a night time only exercise person. It has been stated that people are more successful with they're exercising routine if they knock it out first thing in the morning. 

5) People who do their exercise routine seemed to have regulated their appetite, eat less and choose healthier foods and portions. 

These are just a few reasons of why one should exercise in the morning. I was sold on increasing my metabolism and mental acuity. hahahaaha I need all the help I can get.  Whenever you choose to exercise just do it. Do it for yourself, toss out the excuse and the procrastination. Get moving your body and clear your mind. The benefits and rewards will last you a lifetime. 

 

The First Step To A Healthier You

We are working on my websites today...actually dusting some that have been sitting there in cyber space all by their lonesome self wanting to be worked on, made pretty, and to be visited by people. Anyways....one of the sites is Healthy Tips For A Better You...something very dear to my soul...something I wish all people actually believed in...so I am going to start from the beginning on how to create a healthy you.

As I have stated in the past,  it all starts with your frame of mind. Your mind, your thoughts all play a factor in your overall health, mood and your ability to handle stress. When you want to make changes in your life, it all needs to start with your mindset. Your mind needs to be healthy before you can make changes in your life from weight loss to job changes, and life in general. The way we think and feel plays a factor in our ability to achieve our goals and the outcomes from it. 

According to research performed at the Mayo clinic the health benefits of positive thinking vary from lowering depression and distress, to reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease, increasing life span and better coping with stress. It is not sure why people who have positive thoughts have these benefits. Some of the theories are positive people have better coping skills dealing with stress which reduces the  harmful sides effects of stress on the body. Another thought is that people with positive thoughts have a healthier lifestyles.

This is all good and everyone would love to have these extra health benefits along with the rewards from positive thoughts attract positive things in the world but it takes work and can be done. Your first step is saying and believing it can be done. Your second step is to get rid of the negative things and people in your life. Yes, this can be done. Find positive people and start hanging out with them. You will be amazed at how your life will change.

Negative thinking and hanging around negative people will stop you from achieving your goals whether they are personal or financial.  Find the positive in every situation, don't tell me you can't find the positive because if you look hard and thoroughly you can always find the positive. I was having a conversation about the state of the economy with a friend. He was depressed and scared. I looked at him and I said I'm not worrying about it. He looked at me strangely. I said I can't do anything to change what is going on. It's out of my hands so I  looked for the positive when the economy started to tank. The positive I found was that families we starting to live together and are closer like years ago. He thought about and said you are right. He smiled and said that was very smartest thing he heard about the negative economy and he was going to think that way. Now this thought won't change Washington or the world but it will change the way you let the negative things in the world affect you.

One step closer to being deliriously happy!

The Best Birthday Gift Ever......

I wanted to share the story of the unique bond and love of two of my children. A bond that is so special and worthy of being shared.....

On July 29, 2000 my sweet baby girl Jem was born.  I will never forget the day she came home it is so vivid in my mind like it happened yesterday. The strongest bond I have ever seen between two siblings took place that day, right in front of my eyes.

 My daughter NaTasha drove me and Jem home from the hospital and my daughter Anessa was home watching Dewy. We arrived home in the afternoon of Aug 3, 2000 on my son Dewy's 2nd birthday. When we came through front door Dewy was so excited to see me and his baby sister. He sat on the couch and put his little arms out. He wanted to hold his baby sister. I put Jem in Dewy's arms, they looked at each other as if they were making an agreement at that moment that they would always take care of each. From that day on a special unique bond was formed and has grown stronger ever since.

From the time they were little they have been tight, where you found one the other was close by, each of them paying attention to the other to make sure they didn't need anything. They are able to communicate with one another in away that I cannot fully explain or understand. As they have grown the bond has gotten tighter but allowed each one to grow independently. Jem has always known that Dewy would need help around people and in certain situations. She has always invited him to be with her and her friends and looked out for him when they are away from home to make sure everyone was being good to him. Dewy has always made sure Jem had almost everything she's ever wanted. When he was little he would make sure Jem had her fruit snacks at bedtime, she was protected from any bugs going after her, and he even gave her his undies to wear. Now days he will record T.V. shows for her even though she didn't ask him to and have her favorite snacks saved in a secret spot so no one will eat them.

To me their bond is like that of fraternal twins born two years apart...a boy and a girl instead of two boys or two girls. We refer to beginning of this bond as Dewy's best birthday gift ever....and Jem smiles big and says proudly, "Yes, I'm."

 One step closer to being deliriously happy!

Living Life

I have to say I'm delightfully surprised when I went to our local 4th of July parade. The participants of the parade and the band were beautiful people aged 60 and up. Now that is not to say that there wasn't younger people in the parade but the majority of the peeps were 60 and up...

It was so cute seeing the ladies dancing like an Egyptian and wearing Egyptian outfits they were so cute. I cheered OH, YAY! I'm going to do that in 30 years from now.....wearing the cute little Egyptian outfit and getting my grove on, shaking my booty...

Next up were the mermaids, and need I say anything more but WOW! Beautiful ladies strutting their stuff.  Saying hey who cares bout my age. I'm beautiful and still have it! True inspiration...

After the parade we went to get the free ice cream being passed out. We could hear the band playing and to our second surprise the band was made up of another group of beautiful people that was 60 and up. The music was wonderful, the band was really impressive. 

So many people use age as an excuse of why they can't do something, while others don't let age stop them from doing what they want and living each day to the fullest. Going to the parade and seeing what I seen confirmed my thoughts that the new generation of seniors are not growing old in their rocking chairs, they grabbing a hold of each day and doing what they want. Living their dreams....

On step closer to being deliriously  happy..... 

Living With Asperger

I have always embraced and thanked~God everyday for giving me Dewy. He is one of the greatest gifts I could ever ask for. He teaches me something new everyday~ AND for that I'm blessed beyond words. I wanted to re~post my blog post about Living With Asperger during Autism Awareness Month~~

I went to bed last night with tears in my eyes and a heavy heart. One of the blessings I love the most bout my son will hold him back from having friends; having people to hang with. My son is highly intelligent but lacks the skills to tell if someone is being mean....his social skills are improving but they will always lack for he has been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome......autism spectrum disorder.

My son can ride a bike, skate board, play video games and  is very, very good at it I might add. Excellent in school. He can swim, knows karate, plays sports that are more single person related or two person related. How is that any different then other kids? Grant you his vocabulary may babyish at times and he might point his finger up in the air when he talks and he may not look at you in the eye every time but he has manners and would never be mean. He just wants to have friends....he wants someone to hang with.

A simple way to understanding AS

 I have always taught my kids to be accept people for their differences. No one asked to be born with disabilities or differences. No one waved their hand in the air and said pick me. God made them this way. Who are we to make fun of his creations? Who are we to shun people who are different? When we do we shut ourselves off from a learning experience and possible best friend ever.

I would like to ask the kids and parents, what would do if this was your child? What if this was you? Would you like to be treated as a leopard? Until we change our views and teach our kids to be open, the hate will always plague our society.

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I Want A Brain Transplant But Instead I Got..............

Last Friday I had a very important date with Dr. Lewis, my surgeon. I finally gave in and had the surgery that needed to be done. This day also marks the beginning of the 8 wk plan.

Brain Transplant....check!

No folks it wasn't a hysterectomy, I was scheduled for a brain transplant~~~~I so want a photographic memory~~a WHOLE body tuck and nip, a boob job and butt job. However, when I woke I was sadly disappointed I had the surgery I was scheduled for with none of the things done on my wish list...Bummer..

Lets just let the record state I'm a register nurse who hates needles. I can pick you a bazillion times but don't come at me with a needle, I might have to deck you! With that being said, I had an awesome nurse who had superb techniques in the art of starting IV's. Tho, she did use a numbing med first. I did not feel a thing and I didn't feel the IV in my hand until the day I was going home. Props to that nurse she can stick me anytime.

Behaving as a patient lets see, I hopped out of bed with the rails up once and with the bed up in the air once. Other then that props to me for being a good patient. I wasn't even grumpy....not that I have ever been grumpy LOL!

I was impressed with how clean the hospital was. However my room never did get cleaned...hmmm whatz up with that? The nurses were nice, caring and did a great job but....Yes, there is a but, I had 3 shifts that never did an assessment on me. Yes, I'm was a healthy patient but as a nurse I would never take care of a patient for 12 hours without doing an assessment on them. I love my nursing licence and worked hard to get it. Am I passing judgement? Nope, just giving advice. It's your license.....I had the other half of working moms Anessa and a friend keeping their eyes on me. I was in good hands.
                                                                  

Be in the hospital but be comfy and stylish! 

                                                                 


One step closer to being deliriously happy! 

Paying It Forward, Saying Thanks!

Today, as I was chatting with a few of my twitter friends regarding #payingitforward , I was taken back to my father who passed away years ago and all his generosity which would be called today #payingitforward #randomactsofkindness.  My thoughts drifted to all my neighbors, and family who gave so generously everyday when I was growing up. The acts of kindness that happened everyday when I was little and I took it for granted.

My father had a huge funeral which I see was a way for people to thank him for all that he had given to people, family and his community. Amazing I just got that today. He died when I was young so I never gave thought. Anyway, he gave when he did not have the money to give. He would have given the shirt of his back to help anyone and he really did. He started the ambulance service in our town when we no longer had one, active in the church and a great father.  Never thought once bout the time or bout how much it was going to cost him. We didn't have lots money but her would give anyway. Thats what made him rich I truly believe. The feeling that he must have gotten. I would like to say THANK YOU dad. I finally got it.

I would also like to THANK all my neighbors who I called Aunt, Uncle and Grandpa. They were not related by blood but they were a huge part of my life everyday when I was growing up. They were kind and generous to me and my family. They took care of me when my mom was sick. I loved going to Aunt Marie's house after school because she would have a snack on the table for me waiting and chat with me. She was always there with kind words and a open ear.  Grandpa McLeod would sit and chat with me. He always let us use his clothes line to hang our clothes on and he looked after me too. Aunt Libby and Uncle Don were always there for me too! Always ready for a visit from me. All the neighbors helped my mom and dad out. My mom was sick a lot and they pitched in and helped. I also would like to thank Carl and Martha too. I will never forget your generosity you showed me and all the times you let me stay with you.

This blog is dedicated to all the people in my life who really showed my what random acts of kindness, paying it forward was just took me a bit to figure out where I got it from. I'm sorry it took me so long to say THANKS! You will always be loved and you all are never far from my thoughts! Thank you for being part of the trunk on my tree of life! So you know I addicted to the feeling that comes from #payingitfoward TY!

Please post the acts of kindness that touched your lives!

My New Attitude has People Guessing.....

I woke up January 1, 2011 with a new attitude of I no longer give a rats booty and a feeling of extreme happiness that doesn't seem like it could ever go away.

I left all the baggage in 2010. I have had a smile on my face and an attitude to boot....so much so that everyone swears I must have a new love in my life, which is far from the truth.

A smile and new attitude is a hallmark sign for a new man in my life. Please, one can be deliriously happy without having a love life.

I have a smile on my face laughing as I'm  thinking bout what I just said. Yes, I believe that you need to open your heart and allow love to enter. I plan on mmmmmm maybe working on my love issues this year. Kids and friends say I should I 'm not sure but lets move on from here.

I'm not sure what the deliriously happy feelings are from except from my inner soul, my thoughts, my outlook but whatever it is when the feeling starts to fade I snap back and say Girl, remember you don't give a rats booty, put a smile on your face and love the life you have.

One step to closer to being deliriously happy!!!